Not a single man likes to be treated rudely and ruthlessly. Indeed, I want to be treated considerately. The famous author Schopenhauer once said: “Politeness is to human nature what warmth is to wax.” Certainly, it’s true. Being kind and considerate softens people and makes them acceptable to your way of thinking easily.

没有一个人想被冷漠、残忍以待。确实如此，我就想被温柔体贴而待。著名作家叔本华曾说：“礼貌之于人性来说就像温暖对于蜡。”诚然如此。善良和体贴的人更容易软化人，也容易让别人接受你的思维方式。

Besides, being considerate of others is also good for your health. When you show consideration for others, your brain elevates the feel-good dopamine which makes you feel great and benefits your heart. Since there are so many benefits, but how can you become more considerate? Here are the following tips.

除此以外，对别人体贴也有利于健康。当你体贴别人时，你大脑内的使人愉悦的多巴胺增多，让你觉得很好而且有利于你的心脏。既然这里有那么多好处，那你怎样可以变得更体贴呢？奉上如下建议。

Tip 1 Be Empathic建议一 移情

It’s a necessary thing to show empathy for other people. Sometimes, many people just see things through their own eyes. In other words, they ignore others’ perspectives. Also, they close one door to success actively. Consequently, if you want to solve the problems well, it’s great to be able to put yourself in others’ shoes. And, it is a way to show your respect.

很有必要对别人表示移情。有时候，看问题时很多人会用自己的观点看问题。换句话说，他们忽略别人的意见。同时，他们也主动关掉通向成功的一扇大门。所以，如果你想好好解决问题，站在别人的角度想问题会更好。这也是一种尊重别人的方式。

Tip 2 Smile a Lot建议二 笑口常开

Smile is the shortest distance between two people. Although, it’s easier to frown than to smile because smiling involves around 42 different muscles. However, smile has a huge effect on other people. No person will reject a smiling face. When you smile at people, they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.

笑是两个人之间最短的距离。尽管，皱眉头比微笑更容易。因为，微笑需要将近48块肌肉一起运动。然而，微笑对他人的影响巨大。没有人将会拒绝一张微笑的脸。当你微笑待人，他们也会不知不觉中回馈你并且感觉良好。

Tip 3 Mind Your Manners建议三 注意礼貌

Some people believe that being polite means you’re acting in a way that doesn’t reflect what you actually feel. Even, they consider it as fake and artificial. But, you should change your mind. Minding Your Manners is focusing on how the other persons feel, not on how you feel. It could make others feel comfortable and also help you blend in a strange environment easily.

有些人认为懂礼貌意味着你的行为方式并不是表达你所真正感觉到的。甚至，他们认为懂礼貌是虚伪的、做作的。但是，你们该改变看法了。懂礼貌专注在别人怎么想，而不是你怎么想。懂礼貌能够让他人感觉舒服，同时也能帮助你更好融入陌生的环境。

Tip 4 Apologize When You Need To建议四 在你需要的时候请道歉

When you’ve made a mistake, or even think you’ve made a mistake, apologizing is a crucial part of being considerate. Probably, you do hurt others’ feelings unwittingly. Frankly, some feel like a shattering blow to their pride when apologizing. But, none of us are saints. Just apologize when you need to.

当你犯错了或者你认为你犯错了，道歉也是体贴的重要一部分。可能，你只是无意中伤害了别人的感情。坦白说，当道歉的时候一些人感觉自己的自尊受损。但是，我们都不是圣人，在你需要的时候道歉吧。

Tip 5 Win-Win建议五 双赢

In some people’s eyes, one has only one destination—success or failure. Actually, we could have another choice—win-win. Life is not a zero-sum game. One could win and other could win too. Being considerate, it is very significant to find a way for everybody to win.

在很多人眼里，一个人只有一个终点—赢或输。事实上，我们还有别的选择—双赢。人生并不是一张零和的游戏。一个人可以赢，其他人也可以赢。对于体贴周到来讲，找一个大家都能赢的方法很重要。

Being considerate of others will take you further in life than any college or professional degree!

体贴他人将比任何大学或者学位使得你的人生之路越走越远！

Word Explanation（单词解析）

ruthlessly

美 ['ruːθləsli] 英 ['ruːθləsli]

adv. 无情的；残忍的；冷酷的

例句：

We should ruthlessly crack down on piracy.

我们必须严厉打击盗版。

wax

美 [wæks] 英 [wæks]

n. 蜡；石蜡；耳垢；蜂蜡

v. 给…打蜡；给…上蜡；给…涂蜡；用蜡除去…上的毛

adj. 蜡制的

wax and wane

（力量、重要性等）兴衰枯荣，盛衰；阴晴圆缺

to increase then decrease in strength, importance, etc. over a period of time

例句：

Heat dissolved the candle into a pool of wax in a few minutes .

不到几分钟热就把蜡烛融化成一摊蜡。

perspective

美 [pər'spektɪv] 英 [pə(r)'spektɪv]

adj. (按照)透视画法的；透视的

n. 态度；观点；思考方法

n. a particular attitude towards sth; a way of thinking about sth

例句：

And I immediately began to see things from a different perspective.

我立刻开始从另一种角度看问题。

unwittingly

美 [ʌn'wɪtɪŋli] 英 [ʌn'wɪtɪŋli]

adv. 糊里糊涂地；茫然；无意地

without being aware of what you are doing or the situation that you are involved in

例句：

But I still want to tell you, pretending to do it unwittingly.

可是，我还是想装作不经意地告诉你。